How to Stop Blocking Your Most Powerful Thought Processes
Those leading to answers you actually want!
Questions are a powerful communication tool — possibly the most powerful! However, the effectiveness of our questions relies heavily on the quality!
We use questions all the time, but how many of us think of questioning as a skill that can be developed and perfected as a specific part of our communications processes?
If we compare an average use of questions with that of professionals, like lawyers and doctors, it’s easy to see the difference in quality. Important decisions they make rely on the information they gather, they understand therefore, the quality of answers depend upon quality of questions.
If you don’t ask the right questions, you don’t get the right answers. A question asked in the right way often points to its own answer. Asking questions is the ABC of diagnosis. Only the inquiring mind solves problems.
There can surely be no doubt then of the immense power and value of questioning and the impact it can have when communicating with others. There is another communication process however, where questions are equally as powerful but is almost always overlooked - our internal communication, our ‘self talk’.
Rubbish in rubbish out!
Our ‘self talk’ is mostly in the form of thinking, and is going on for almost 50% of our waking hours. However, the human mind is a wandering mind, involved in “contemplating events that happened in the past, might happen in the future, or may never happen at all”.
It’s not this ‘self talk’ that I’m discussing however. (Although I do wonder how many bad habits we develop from this inconsequential wandering?) What I’m looking at here, are the meaningful discussions we have with ourselves when we have important decisions or considerations to debate.
I’m sure you know, only too well, what it’s like to struggle with those decisions on your own? Thoughts sway back and forth and side to side. Logic is illogical, and there’s no firm confirmation in any answer we come up with.
See, the challenge in these situations, is we ask the wrong questions, and we have no outside opinions to help us develop the correct ones!
Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.
Think of it this way. That wonderful computer inside your head is the same as any other; what you get out, depends on the programming. Or, to put it another way, your mind can only work on what it knows.
So, there you are, faced with a task or challenge you have never faced before and you ask yourself, “can I do this?” Searching for evidence that you can, your computer finds that you never have, and gives the only answer it has, no!
Now you are blocked from the solution.
But, with the simple addition of the word ‘how’, the search takes on a different format. Ask yourself, “how can I do this?” and the computer searches for ways to find solutions, rather than searching for the solutions themselves.
A quick and simple way to use your self talk more efficiently? You bet!
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